Same Sex Marriage Accepted Under Federal Law - - This post haved 0 comments

Today the LGBTQ community hit a home run. The Supreme Court was set to rule over the cases of the Defense Of Marriage Act (DOMA) and California initiate Proposition 8. DOMA is designed to restrict the federal government from accepting same sex marriages.

It's clear that this does not apply to states decisions on same sex marriage. Same sex marriage began in California in 2008. It has been one of the hottest topics in mainstream media and social media since then. DOMA was put in place as a religious tool of restricting civil rights of same sex couples.

There are a lot of further questions resonating around the decision. President Obama said the Department of Justice will be deciding on the future of this decision. Will there be executive actions signed by President Obama?

Proposition 8 stopped marriage in the state of California. This is not a national ban but was accepted into the Supreme Court for ruling. California claims Prop 8 is unconstitutional and takes away the rights of LGBTQ citizens for no reason other than moral differences.  Today's decision was critical in the acceptance of same sex marriage resuming in California.

In the end, the Supreme Court decided to remand the case and send it back to the state of California. Ruling on jurisdiction, a private group can not take such matters to a national level. Same sex marriage should resume in California while the time line is not clear. There will probably be a 30 day waiting period for marriages after the ban is lifted. Extra staff is needed, and has been brought in, to handle the influx of applications.

Hundreds of people gathered in San Francisco and thousands around the nation. Gay Pride begins this week in San Francisco. While the Proposition 8 ruling was a waste of time, it is nice to see that the nation now accepts same sex couples under the law.

Attitudes toward same sex marriage has shifted since 2008 when Proposition 8 was overturned the first time. With growing acceptance, and the DOMA overturn, we should expect to see same sex marriage legalized across the nation within a matter of years.

Bisexual Invisibility - - This post haved 0 comments

Whether you are a man or a woman, if you are bisexual odds are you feel pretty alone. Where are all of the great bisexuals, you wonder. Truth is, on average bisexuals are pretty invisible. Openly bi people are pretty rare. The drunk college girl and the closet bi-guy are skewing the statistics. The in's and out's of bisexuality are annoying to say the least. People always think you are either "in a phase" or "waiting to come out as homo". Men are naturally inclined to be confused by a woman's bisexuality. "Can I get her into a threesome." Other men feel like their bisexual girlfriend will leave him for another woman. Yikes!

Confusing, complicated, bisexuality is a bitch. We're invisible. The homos think we're too straight and the heteros think we're too gay! Although bisexuals have been the leading majority in the LGBT community, and have spent countless hours promoting activism for the community, we still fall through the cracks. The world forces everything into two exclusive and unequal halves, a dichotomy. In a world of heterosexuality and homosexuality, anything else just doesn't work.


Bi women are not "party girls". Although I am very disapointed in the images I turned up while searching Google. Tila Tequila sort of grosses me out and the kiss between Madonna and Britney Spears is so 1990! I'm sick and tired of the horrible stereotype thrust apon bisexuals like myself. We don't have a leg to stand on because all of the minority of skanky bi girls makeing us look like whores... like we would be willing to have sex with anyone.


There's more to bisexuals than meets the eye. We're open to love in many forms. Just because we like girls and guys doesn't mean we are confused or over sexed. We are free thinkers that love and lust despite a person's sexual orientation. I see bisexuals as seeing the world through unbiased eyes. Not just unbiased genitals.


Read this article based on a San Francisco study that discusses bisexuality and the affects of biphobia and homophobia on the LGBT population. Bisexual Invisiblity Report Makes History

Landscaping and Manscaping - - This post haved 0 comments

You can file this one under Sexual Education and Grooming! I'm talking about pubic hair, the hair down there that can be the subject of many 'romantic' conversations. Women have it and men have it, but women are put on blast about it constantly. And men need to take more time maintaining their nether region. So, I decided to write a little article on keeping the hedges trimmed.

Pubic Hair
Bush
Hedges
Peach Fuzz
Muff
Carpet

There are many names, just for the hair down there. It is such a common thing that it is necessary to give it many names, so that you can fit it into conversation better. It is a common belief that the purpose of pubic hair is to keep women from getting any "stuff" into their vagina and keep a guys sperm warm.

So what's all the fuss about? Well, in ye olden days people didn't have the hygiene skills to shave their monstrous muffs. "You know what's under my petticoat?" Today, men and women alike are getting sick of those little obnoxious hairs and are insisting they be shaved away.

To bare or not to bare is the question? Do we keep our vaginas shaved in submission to masculine pressure or can we grow our bush and be proud? To maintain an equilibrium, I vote to enjoy any combination of both.

At times, shaving can be annoying. From razor burn to cutting that tender skin, is it really worth it? To enjoy a variety of "hair cuts" is to be as flexible as possible. No one should be judging, or taking score. A given amount of hygiene is expected, and a fair trim is necessary! But let's just be fare, and be free to bare!

Yea, I went there and yea, you should think about it!!

Free Love in Modern Society - - This post haved 0 comments

Free love is beautiful. It's natural and wonderful to be intimate with others. Emotionally and physically. Love is a feeling that only the luckiest get to understand. It is complicated and multifaceted  There are different types of love all of which are glorious in their own right. You can love a friend, a parent, a pet, and especially a significant other.

Free love has gotten a bad rap in the past few decades. The idea is that men and women are over sexed and are sleeping with everything possible. Gross and perverted ideas of free love and being propagated left and right from anti-peace organizations. These ideas are singular and misguided. Of course there are people that want to experience ultimately, unlimited sexuality. They take their sexual destiny into their own hands and embrace it fully. These ideals may seem extreme, but there is beauty in sexuality and power in sexual freedom.

“Yes, I am a Free Lover. I have an inalienable, constitutional and
natural right to love whom I may, to love as long or as short a
period as I can; to change that love every day if I please, and with
that right neither you nor any law you can frame have any right to
interfere."

—	Victoria Woodhull

The idea of free love is beginning to be redefined. An awakening is happening and we are beginning to open our hearts to the rest of the world. We are accepting and learning to respect the differences in others. Free love is based on the ideals of ultimate acceptance and the desire for oneness with people in our lives. The free love movement isn't about having sex with everyone, but finding the ability to love others with open hearts and open minds.

Sexy Fish Sandwich - - This post haved 0 comments

It's nothing new to see sexuality used to sell products. It's also no surprise that Hardees (AKA Carl Jrs) uses over sexualized commercials to sell their sandwiches. From the infamous commercial of Paris Hilton washing a car in a bikini and eating her hamburger to the newest sexy Hardess commercial featuring a bikini clad beach bunny simulating oral sex on a straw.

It's disappointing to say the least. Exposure to overly sexual material leaves little to the imagination. It also makes companies appear overly desperate to sell their worthless product. If the burger was really that good, I wouldn't need a body to tell me so. Seeing too much flesh, at inappropriate times, causes us to lose appreciation for the real deal.

Where do we draw the line? Our society attempts to push the boundaries of every aspect in life, it's important to change and evolve. It is clear that sex sells products, it's cliche. Using sexuality to churn marketing is an attempt to grab your attention at whatever cost. We've seen scantly clad women (and men) used in movies, clothing ads and even car ads. Sexuality touches many aspects of American culture. One place I thought it could be avoided was in the fast food chains.

It's not very surprising that a fast food chain would hop on the bandwagon. You expect to see kid friendly places like McDonald's avoid such antics. However, Hardees leans more toward the adult demographic. Their commercials have always been racy and it's hard to find one that doesn't make your stomach turn. (Check out this article.)

I would love to see sexuality banned from commercials. I love racy, dirty movies and support adult decisions to consume such media. However, I believe these commercials are desensitizing our children and a population as a whole. It is unnecessary to show a woman bent over in a bikini sucking on a straw and making moaning sounds. Especially during the middle of the day when most families are at home trying to enjoy a good sitcom. It also seems shallow and dumb to buy into such marketing strategies. If you like the burger (or product) then by all means enjoy. But don't be naive to think that just because a company is trying to get your attention with such disrespectful tactics that their product is going to be worth your money or attention. Vote with your wallet.

Don't want to give Hardees any attention but I'll let the evidence speak for itself.

Proper Condom Storage - - This post haved 3 comments

There are a few things to keep in mind when having sex... safe sex. Most importantly the proper use of contraception, and I'm talking CONDOMS!

We all know a condom can break. We all know that serious consequences can arise when a condom is not used properly. We can not be lazy and stick our heads in the sand when our sexual health and general lifestyle is at risk. Condom safety and storage are of utmost importance when preventing STD infections and unwanted pregnancy.

Here are some tips to help keep your condoms fresh so you can keep getting it in:

• Always store your condoms in a cool and dry area. The bathroom is known to be very hot during shower time and this can cause your condom to break down and become weak.
• Do not store in the sunlight and do not try to use them in water.
• Follow the expiration date. Condoms have a shelf life and will become brittle with age.
• Do not store your condoms in your wallet or pocket. Friction from movement will cause them to break down.
• Follow the "first in, first out" rule. Use your oldest condoms first, assuming they have not surpassed their expiration date.
• If a condom is discolored (generally yellow or white spots), brittle or appearing to break, throw them away!

Follow these simple tips and you'll have a condom that is (nearly) guaranteed not to break!

Visit Lifestyles  website for more information.

Sexy Halloween | Taking Back Our Dignity - - This post haved 0 comments

Male Vs. Female Costumes

Every year, on the last day of October, ghosts and goblins come out to spook the living. It's also typical to see sexy bunnies, bumblebees and other miscellaneous mini skirt costumes. I've always believed that a person should wear what they are comfortable in, as long as it does not upset their morals and the natural flow of things. Wearing skimpy outfits on Halloween is a cry for sexual attention. Everyone is deserving attention. We are all worthy of expressing ourselves and being noticed. But what kind of attention are we looking for and why do we think we need to be noticed sexually?

When picking out a costume, the options are limited for women. Men have multiple costumes that aren't as sexually explicit. When a woman, who does not desire to be nearly naked, is looking for a costume her selection is diminished to outfits with the word "Sexy" in the title. Sexy Nemo, Sexy Batman and Sexy Kitty. Why can't women find costumes that don't make them appear to be desperate for sexual attention? Also, our young girls costumes are also growing sexier as the times change. The shorts are getting shorter and skin is popping through many different holes. This is not the way our children should dress and it is not a good example to be setting for our children.

This world has always been male dominated. And men want nothing more than to see tail on Halloween. If you choose to wear a sexy costume on Halloween, you are only giving in to the male desire. Some arguments can be made that NOT wearing a sexy costume is the same as giving up your rights because of male opinion. It's understandable to feel that way. But in reality, women who wear skimpy costumes ARE looking for the wrong kind of attention. They are looking for approval from males and the approval of other females that are looking for the same male approval.

There has to be a line drawn, however, so that we do not participate in slut shaming. Obviously, we are supportive of sexuality and sex. But it is important to realize that retailers and manufacturers are the guilty parties and that women are only acting on what they think they are "supposed" to do. While I do not aim to shame anyone for their sexuality, it is still important to have sexual dignity. Know your limits and don't wear something just because it's the only option on the shelf. We should not feel pressured to wear sexual outfits to satisfy sexual, male fantasies.

Halloween is about letting your hair down and expressing yourself in some creative way. Wearing the same Sexy Kitty costume as 15 other women is NOT creative. When did a scary kids holiday turn into a day of sexuality? Use your common since on Halloween, girls. If you wouldn't let your bits hang out on a regular day, don't demean yourself by doing it on Halloween. Use your imagination to come up with an amazing costume that still allows you keep you dignity in tact.

This Video Says It All

*As always, this is my opinion and I don't suspect everyone will agree.

The Pregnant Virgin - - This post haved 0 comments

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We've all heard of immaculate conception. But is it possible for a woman becomes pregnant even though she's never experienced penetration? According to one mom, it is. Here's her story.

I was a pregnant virgin and I am now a doting mommy to a 9 week old baby and this shocks many people when I tell them. Yes you can get pregnant without having sex. I’ve had 6 boyfriends and have done some sexual stuff with them but  I have never  actually had full on penetrated sex. My friend thought she was pregnant so asked me to do a test with her as a way of support and my test came out positive.

I thought because I wasn’t having sex I couldn’t get pregnant so I had not bothered with using any form of  contraception and the only way I can explain what happened was his sperm must have got onto my private area and got me pregnant.

I was petrified of labor thinking it would hurt so much more as I hadn’t  been stretched’ down there, but I ended up having internal exams (which were quite uncomfortable but didn’t hurt) and a fast labor (4 and a half hours).

I haven’t told anyone (obviously the father of my baby knows) because I was really embarrassed that I am a 20 year old virgin. I wanted to write this purely because when I searched ‘pregnant virgins’ online I found nothing that said it was possible to happen and felt really alone about it.

It's a scary thought. This woman had avoided intercourse, probably for a number of reasons, including an unwanted pregnancy.  If there is anything to learn from this story, it's to always ALWAYS be careful and use  some form of birth control. Even if you think you can't get pregnant because you are only "playing around". Sperm is tricky, and it only takes 1 out of millions!

Refried Hippie - - This post haved 0 comments

What is a Refried Hippie? A new age hippie, born in the wrong decade. Hippies and beatniks of the 60's have inspired a new generation to lead a path to freedom. We have taken on many cultural relics of our forefathers (and foremothers) and incorporated modern technology to give us an electric highway to spread our messages of peace and love.

Refried Hippies, like any other micro-culture, are all different people. Different backgrounds, different styles, different beliefs; all with same ideal for world peace. This blog will incorporate all the aspects of a new age hippie lifestyle, with throwbacks from the summer of love!

Topics will include (but are not limited to):

• Hippie/Beatnik culture of the 60's and beyond.
• Political Issues
• Feminism
• LGBTQ
• Family and Relationships
• Home Decorating and Environmental Tips
• Environmental Issues
• Kids - Raising and Surviving Them
• Pets
• Fashion Trends
• Food and Drink
• Health
• Travel
• Romance and Sex

If you are interested in anything you see on the site or if you would like to contribute to the blog send emails to mrsatollison@gmail.com .

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Peace and Love,

Mrs T